Transcendence requires your total surrender
Consider this: a French euphemism for orgasm is “la petite mort” or “the little death,” implying among other things, that bliss follows risk, and union requires release.
Everyone craves a sense of transcendence - which is beyond oneself - but that requires total surrender - which is to lose oneself - and if it is to be experienced with another, the paradox is that this can only happen if the other truly sees you - which is to meet yourself in their mirror.
The reason this is so rare is because most people are either:
Too busy looking at their own reflection to hold a mirror for someone else
OR
Are worried what others are seeing in their reflection and if they’ll like it
It then makes sense why so few get to experience their full awakening and fulfillment of their true potential. It lies dormant beneath insecurities or projective obfuscations, waiting for someone to help break down the walls and lead the way to transcendence.
It’s also why we’re naturally drawn to food, substances (yes plant medicine too), adrenaline inducing activities, religions and spiritual groups (yes, retreats and cuddle parties and even f$%k boi healers or divine feminine councils), kink, and therapy, and pretty much ANYTHING that can get us out of the hamster wheel of the thinking mind and all of its incessant self-referential rhetoric.
Plenty of it useful, and none of it inherently wrong unless it comes with abuse, however none of it will work long term unless the changes are internally driven. YOU are your own gatekeeper.
And a few gifted, aligned others who have done the work for themselves can then meet you in that thrilling and oh so deliciously torturous vulnerable space.
So ask yourself, is it me? Is it them?
If the answer is the latter, ask yourself why you chose them and if there’s something you can do to improve this dynamic.
And if you’re someone who’s sick and tired of bumping up against a self-induced ceiling of potentiality and have the cojones to let a true fem-dome style, therapeutic Libertine of a coach show you how to surrender to your own desires, hit me up. I’ve been there, done that, got the degree and the life experience to show you how it’s done.
