SEE NO EVIL, HEAR NO EVIL, SPEAK NO EVIL
Growing up, we used to sing this little ditty … “Oh be careful little eyes what you see (ears what you hear, tongue what you say …), for the Father up above is looking down in love, so be careful little eyes what you see.”
Now having left organized religion, I would change the last line to something along the lines of "for your mind and body are responding out of love"…
Because you see, they just can’t not. Being human is to be a conscious awareness wrapped up in a physical avatar with a thinking mind doing its dead level best to make sense of the world and keep your physical body safe and as stimulated and happy as possible.
Those three components - mind, body, and conscious awareness (aka spirit or soul) are in a constant bidirectional feedback loop. What one experiences gets sent out to the other two, and their reaction is then sent out to the world around you.
This is why one of the fundamental principles I teach my clients is RUTHLESS PRAGMATISM. It is so vital that you cut away ANYTHING that does not fuel or further your desired experience or authentic purpose in this lifetime. (See my last post about for a hilarious and gross visual to reinforce this).
All this to say, you can make things a helluva lot easier on yourself by consciously, and with intention, regulating who's in your environment (INCLUDING ONLINE... I can't overemphasize this!) and how you respond to them.
- NO gossip or listening to it
- NO complaining or listening to it
- NO speaking of lack or limitation
- NO endless and mindless scrolling through other people's rants
- NO social media stalking people who hurt you/ make you jealous or otherwise feel badly about yourself
- NO unconscious (i.e., without intentionality) consumption of mass media, cinema/ TV, or music that triggers you (not talking emotional processing or activism here... but still, be careful and take time to ground)
As Don Miguel Ruiz writes about in his primer for life - The Four Agreements - BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD.
And I know what you're possibly thinking ... that sounds like what people call "toxic positivity" or "spiritual bypassing." To which I say, BULLSHIT; no it's not. It's biology, sociology, economics, and more. Everything you think and say has an emotional charge to it, and your body and everyone else can feel it, and then their bidirectional feedback loop interacts with your bidirectional feedback loop with very real, and often devastating effects.
You can absolutely speak about challenges and things that need to be changed without bitching and moaning and ruminating and projecting and panicking. If you have time to worry, you have time to strategize. If you have time to complain, you have time to brainstorm and implement solutions. If you have time to ruminate, you have time to process with a therapist or coach.
Like they rightfully say, your word is your wand. You’ll either create your own heaven or hell with it.
And your bioenergy field is like a magnet or a 3-D printer - drawing more of the same to you and following out your brain and body’s instructions without judging them.
So... what are YOU allowing in your life today boo?
